"What's the matter? You weird or something? Or maybe you're gay."

Your boyfriend's words slash across your heart. They are not fair. He's trying to get you to doubt a lot of things - including yourself, your morals, and your God. All because of sex.

Eve doubted

The devil uses doubt too. It worked on Eve.

"Did God really say 'You must never eat the fruit of any tree in the garden'?" he asked her.

The devil got Eve to start doubting. His lies were successful when Eve began thinking, "Maybe it would be better if I did things my own way. Maybe God really doesn't know what's best. Maybe he's keeping me from some fun times. The snake's right: this fruit looks so good. Something must be wrong with me if I don't eat it. Maybe I'd be even more special if I do eat it."

Eve thought that the fruit could give her more than the perfect, wonderful life God had given her. And then, after she ate it, she realized the only things she got were sin, fear, and separation from the only one who loved her perfectly.

No doubt!

Don't fall into Eve's trap. The devil may tempt you to think that having sex would solve your problems... no more unhappy boyfriend, you'd have some grown up fun, and you wouldn't be so weird.

I know girls who tried that. But their relationships tanked, their consciences nagged them, and their problems multiplied (pregnancies, STDs, broken hearts). Just as bad: the boyfriend was still not happy, they now have grown up problems, and they are feeling anything but normal.

Sex outside of a marriage relationship will not be good for you. God gives you direction in the Bible for a life filled with his blessing. And choosing to cherish sex with your marriage partner alone is the best way---God's way. Don't doubt God. You can trust the one who loved you so much he sent his Son to be your Savior to know what is best!

Real Love

And don't doubt yourself. Sometimes it's easy to think that we need a relationship with another person to be "normal" or special. This is not true. Like Eve, you're special just as you are...just as God made you. You are the apple of his eye.

It's true that we all need love. When we don't feel loved, it hurts. We may find love from our parents, friends, or boyfriends. But having sex with a boyfriend - or anyone else - will not bring you love.

No wonder. The few moments of excitement that intercourse offers is not love. Love is unconditional commitment to an imperfect person. Where do you find that love? In Jesus' arms. And in human relationships where, in Jesus, you can love and be loved like God loves you.

"What's the matter? You weird? You gay?"

No. You're a Christian who is thankful for your Savior's love.