Will I Ever Find Someone?

By K.L. Bright

In all my years, the world of dating has come and gone . . . and come again, leaving me wondering: "Will I ever find someone?" Ask that question and you're likely to hear something I like to call "single people comfort statements." You've heard these stereotypical phrases meant to comfort singles. These can be frustrating and hard to believe, but truth lies deep within.

So, what should you do when you're worried you might never find your match? Remember a few things.

There's a lid for every pot

I've been accused of being picky. I like my carrots raw, not cooked. I like my boys tall and blue-eyed. Everyone has preferences. However, there is such a thing as being too particular. If someone who doesn't match your ideal is interested, don't immediately toss him or her aside. The whole idea behind friendship and dating is to find out what you can give to a relationship and what traits complement you best. The only way to find out which person fits you best is to spend time with all kinds of different people (all sizes and shapes of lids, if you will).

It will happen when you least expect it

I thought my first serious relationship would happen during high school. When it didn't, I was worried. Then I graduated from college, still without a mate, and panicked. How was I ever supposed to meet someone, get married, and have a family if I wasn't dating anyone yet? As humans, it is impossible to understand the choices God makes for us. But remember that God is all knowing. Everything he does is for believers' good.

If you wonder why you aren't in a relationship yet, take a look at a few different areas of your life. Do you know what you want from life? Are you confident in who you are? Most important, how is your relationship with God? After all, how can you have a satisfying relationship with another person if you don't have one with God first?

God's timing is perfect-he knows when you and your soul mate will be ready for each other.

The glass is half full

As difficult as it is, maintaining perspective is key. You're not less of a person because you're not dating someone. Being single gives you time to do the activities that interest you, to spend time with friends, and to meet new people-all things that are often hindered by romantic relationships. Realize how much your friends and family love you and how full your life really is.

I know people who married the first person that they dated and others who have dated endlessly and are still single. At one time or another, everyone wonders if they'll ever find the "right one."

Will I ever find my soul mate? I don't know the answer to that question. But while I'm waiting, I'm asking God for guidance to make the most of what I am given.

A few passages to get you through the rough days:

  • Romans 8:28
  • Psalm 40:1-3
  • Psalm 18:1
  • Lamentations 3:19-25
  • Hebrews 11:1